Posted by shar on October 11, 2000, at 15:41:51
In reply to Re: Tough vs Soft Therapeutic Styles, posted by Mark H. on October 11, 2000, at 15:05:05
Mark wrote >
since both men and women can be tough and make you work or provide a softer environment to encourage self-healing.-- > I believe a good therapist will be able to be tough and softer, help you work, help you heal yourself, fight with you, not let you fool yourself, and nurture you. And will be able to do each at the most appropriate times.
BTW I am in a group now, but have also had individual with my therapist.
My therapist can be sympathetic, acknowledge wounds and offer love, encouraging (pointing out a change or shift in a healthier direction), very directive, wants to know when we are mad as hell at her (which I am right now) and why, tough as nails, etc.
So, really, she isn't always soft or tough. She is always honest, always willing to work, wants us to work, and will not abandon (me).
I would look for a combination, someone versatile, who continues their education, studies with other colleagues. Male or female doesn't necessarily matter, but I do think different issues will come up from time to time based on therapist gender because they represent the male or female authority figure in our lives, and we will have issues specific to those.
Shar
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