Posted by Nibor on August 18, 2000, at 18:02:59
In reply to Dealing with grief after loss of mother, posted by Dona on August 18, 2000, at 17:26:51
> My mom died in Feb and I think I have been dealing fairly well with grief--went through depression and have seen psych and therapist and combo of talk and meds has helped. My problem is that my sister is an attorney and executor of estate, and for her own problems, she became angry with me after the funeral and refused to let me look through my mom's things. I went home ( I live 3000 miles away) with a few pictures and mementos of my mom and dad. Today I got a form letter from my sister and she is sharing some of the things she found when she went through my mother's belongings. I should be glad she is sharing, but I am so resentful that I did not have the opportunity to do what she did. How do I deal with this resentment--would it do any good to tell her??? I guess I think not because she is such an angry person.
Hi, Dona
I'm so sorry about your loss, and also that you have to deal with this extra problem with your sister. My inclination would be to tell her how you feel but also that you would like your relationship with her to improve--if, indeed, you would like that. It can be so tough between siblings. But when good, there's nothing like it. One of our favorite things is the close friendship between our two children; I pray (or whatever it is that I do) that it stays that way.
Nibor
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