Posted by desolationrower on May 31, 2009, at 8:52:58
In reply to I want a baby, a better marriage, and a d*ck, posted by FindingMyDesire on May 23, 2009, at 0:05:21
hi. i think what you're saying makes sense. I think what you say about 'sides' or how some roles are just kind of assumed in a community is true...i think part of that is that having a role makes it easier for people to get their needs met because the role helps give people meaning, and implicitly explains to others how they should interact with you, and also helps to focus on other activities or people, instead of the construction of self-identity. this having a role pre-prepared probably results in greater happiness, i think this has some confirming research. So I don't mean to say you shouldn't be wanting or needing things, but queering can make things harder, just because its more complex. So it necessitates more psychological work. i'm sure you realize that...i guess i don't have much else to say, but not much response to this post. it was just something i had thought about myself, although i have only minor variations from the straight white guy template. hope things work out.
-d/r
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