Posted by Bird Watcher on September 29, 2008, at 4:08:49
In reply to How long to get over an ex?, posted by JayMac on September 13, 2008, at 12:56:46
> Question for you all:
> How long should it take to get over an ex? When do you start dating again?
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> I dated a guy for about 1 year, it's been over for like 6 weeks. Our relationship started going downhill slowing after like 7 months. It took me many months and tiny break ups to finally work up to make the final break up and part ways. Sometimes I miss him, but I feel like I'm over him. I'm anxious to start dating again. I want to feel close to someone again.
>
> What do you all think? I know some of you have a few years or decades of experience and I value your opinion =)
>
> Peace,
> JayMac
I can only go by my experience in answering this and don't know how much help it will be. I have never been able to get over anyone until I literally moved on to the next. It has always been hard for me to end a romantic relationship because I have always invested all of myself into every one I've ever had. And I don't like for someone to feel like I've rejected them, probably because I know what it feels like to be rejected.Breaking up is so hard anyway. I've never been able to come right out and do it unless I literally split with absolutely no contact afterwards. I somehow couldn't tell them I wanted out face to face.
I have been in dead-end relationships for much longer than I should have. It was a fuzzy line between love and loyalty.
Then, after I left, I couldn't get them out of my mind. Not until I met someone new who turned out to be something more. This could be a few months, years or days. One thing I learned about myself is that I don't like being alone. Yet, there is nothing worse than living a lie. When you find the real thing you will know it. I finally did and he loves me in spite of me.
There is someone out there for you. But maybe you should try to find the good in being alone for a while. I think I might be a healthier person and have more self-esteem if I had done that. It's just so #### hard (to be alone).
I wish you the best and am sorry for any pain you are going through.
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