Posted by stellabystarlight on September 14, 2008, at 19:10:39
In reply to How long to get over an ex?, posted by JayMac on September 13, 2008, at 12:56:46
Hi Jay,
I rarely go outside of the psych board, but I happened to stop by the relationship board and saw your post. Gosh, I can't believe you're going through a break-up on top of everything else! I'm sorry you're under so much stress.
I have dated a lot and had more than my share of boyfriends before getting married. So, I have experienced many, many break-ups with varying degrees of pain, but I always recovered in the end - even when I thought the pain would do me in.
Interesting you say your relationship started going downhill after about 7 months, because I would usually find out if the relationship was going to survive or not around the 6 month mark. Far as your question of how long it takes to get over an ex - well, it depends on the intensity of the relationship. If I miss him a couple of months after the break-up, but knew that it was over...I would know that the anxiety/pain was about my lonliness and not really about him. I know that some people say to wait before dating again, but I always kept myself open to dates. I met my husband within 2 weeks of ending a tumultuous 3 year relationship. And within those 2 weeks, I must have gone on 3 different dates before meeting him. Of course, it's up to you, but I think you should keep your heart and mind open to dating. Even if you don't meet your soulmate, and end up with a dull date, you'll have learned something about yourself through that person!
I know how smart and insightful you are from your posts, so I have no doubt that everything will work out for you!
Take care and I'm sure will talk again.
Stellabystarlight
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