Posted by nfc on August 16, 2008, at 4:52:30
In reply to lying on a date (b/c Im crazy), posted by med_empowered on August 15, 2008, at 12:55:42
hey med,
i give you 2 thumbs up for putting yourself out there. its better than being recluse. ezr sed than done when you don't feel well though. i don't have a similar experience but I'm similar in the sense that i'm trying to rehab myself into being a more sociable person. when the depression, guilt and shame was quite intense for me, all I did was keep to myself. at work as well. I'd open up a bit to people who knew my situation but it was hard trying to be social w/ everyone. even now although I'm much improved. I'd say keep getting out there in social situations that you're comfortable w/. Forgo the klonopin if possible for a short while if possible if that helps w/ you being more in the conversation. don't do it if it puts u in a bad situation. about the lying, well u gotta do what you gotta do. at first you don't have to spill everything anyway. if it gets serious, i feel you'll have to eventually tell him the truth. i feel that you shouldn't let the lying go on for a long time. if u see this guy maybe 1 or 2 more times and if it seems genuine then maybe let him know the truth? it'll clear the air and will really show true feelings in dealing w/ such a situation. whether its a deal or no deal so to speak. u make the final call though as what I say is just things to think about. hope it works out and even if it doesn't think of it as a stepping stone to greater things!
take care and have fun!
nfc
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