Posted by fayeroe on July 2, 2008, at 4:56:31
In reply to Re: Depression, posted by Cherrybomb on July 2, 2008, at 0:01:55
> It does seem like a lot of wasted energy on this. Here I am at almost 1 am because I ate late and couldn't sleep.
**Do you exercise? How about a brisk 30 minute walk after dinner?**I need other things to focus on. This is the time of year I really get depressed. I'm a teacher so I'm off for the Summer. I'm trying to find ways to pass the time. I'm not motivated to do housework as we don't have a nice house, but I know it has to be done. If I had a nicer place and wasn't embarrassed by it I would attempt to invite people over, but I can't do it by myself. Too much needs to be done. I don't know about couples counseling.
**I doubt that your friends would be reluctant to come over because your house isn't as nice as you think it should be. Get cracking and do some minor things. Change out the pillows on the sofa, paint the coffee table (if that is possible), make new curtains/drapes out of bargain fabric or sheets....PAINT.....that is the cheapest decor that you can do and it changes a room more than anything else. Habitat for Humanity has very cheap paint.**
I thought about it. I know this guy's wife and so do others. She's given up on him a long time ago but stayed with him until the kids were in college. She's the one who insisted on a divorce.
**Did she tell you this?**
**What would keep her from divorcing him? Staying together due to children isn't usually the best for all involved. Those kids, college age, know what is going on.**
He wanted to stay married and continue his affair with his girlfriend. The thing is, when you are in an organization and you talk to people regularly, you find out things sometimes by accident from half-drunk people.
**What kind of organization is this? Are you hearing these things about the wife from half-drunk people?**
I did like the attention and I liked being valued and to have someone listen to me. My motive is just friendship. If I was upset over losing a female friend, would people think that I was a lesbian?
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That's just silly. I lost my best friend, of 35 years, due to something hurtful she said about the war. I grieved alot, but no one said I was a lesbian.**
My husband knows about this guy, I never tried to keep it a secret from him. I do admit it seems I need to find others to fill the friendship void. Not so easy for me. Still, if I do care about someone, I don't know how to stop caring.**You can only fix yourself. Stay on the internet, when you read this and google "losing a friend" or something similiar. There are lots of ways that we can find self-help on the net.**
poster:fayeroe
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