Posted by Fivefires on July 13, 2007, at 19:36:36
In reply to Trying to be well hurts, posted by gardenergirl on June 7, 2007, at 16:56:04
A guy I know, I think, *enjoys* tripping on my guilt switch. I then go into the sad-anger-sad sort of back and forth moods.
And, he'll tell me 'I can forget about all of this when I walk out the door'!
Yeah!
But me, I do the same thing as you gg. First I feel the guilt, and then come the altering sad-anger-sad moods. It just makes me crazy.
This one will probably not be w/ me forever, for he is such a handful. He keeps coming back to me. Of course, I sort of keep calling him if I need help w/ this or that too, or if I'm too lonely.
He's charming and all lovey-dovey, and then I'll say something in fun, and he'll suddenly act hurt and begin to gather his things to leave.(?) (I think he has plans and this is the way he gets from my home to wherever he has to go. He can't just tell me he has an appointment?)
Anyway, I'm left to feel guilty about .. nothing, actually. He does this to me all the time and I confront him and he acts like he has no idea what I'm talking about.
It's especially hard at certain times though, like if I'm feeling ill.
Reason I say he'll prob' not be w/ me forever is I'm truly not guilty most of the time, and I'm not doing bad things. He is gifted at turning things around so that he can go in the direction he wants to go.
I'm really sick to my stomach today and he found something that I was sure I'd hidden very well. He was, this time, rightly injured. And, oh boy do I feel guilty today! I sent him a mean text message, then another one. Then I turned off my phone! This makes me crazy!
And, he's out there and it's not bothering him a bit.
It's time to tell myself I'm a good person and not partake in his, guilt you into your sad-anger game. (Well, part of it could be my fault; I must be careful what I say about him online.)
I'm going to turn back on my phone and if he calls later ignore, ignore, ignore all weekend. And, I'll take care of myself and be fine and try to count my blessings.
bestwishesfriends 5f
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