Posted by gazo on March 29, 2007, at 16:42:10
In reply to Re: good post, gazo......., posted by Cynthia_Greene on March 28, 2007, at 13:01:25
> I think my biggest concern is that he's going to impulsively decide he's sick of seeing me without warning. I've never been happy in a relationship before, so it's hard for me to believe that I'm actually with someone I like who feels the same way about me. He keeps promising me he isn't going to break my heart, but I can't stop worrying anyway.
>ah.. then you asked the wrong question i think. The question isn't about BP. Impulsiveness is certainly a symptom, and most BPer's I know are more impulsive than average people even when doing great otherwise.
Your question isn't even about him IMO. It's about you. You have issues surrounding abandonment from what you say.. and remember, not an expert here. Him being BP isn't related, it's just a target for the anxiety you have. That isn't meant to offend. You have worries that are natural, but it's up to you to decide if the degree is natural. If it is interferring with you having or enjoying relationships then you might consider going to talk therapy.
BP can make people do some..um..regrettable things sometimes, and the milder the form the less extreme those things are. I have done irratic things and made bad choices, but i have not been arrested or hurt anyone. One thing i can tell you for sure is that a person's moral fiber is not caused by BP. With BPII and milder, those who act out against loved ones have issues outside of BP.. the BP just makes it boil over.
so, if your issue is about security... then you need to look inside yourself. You can't predict whether *anyone* will stay or go suddenly, that is a product of circumstance, your interaction together and personal values IMO.
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