Posted by Basia on November 5, 2006, at 3:18:30
Hi
I met a guy on a dating website over the summer, we emailed for a while and finally met in late August. We see each other most weekends, but I am getting really uncomfortable with the lack of contact with him during the week. He never texts me, I am always the one to initiate contact. He also says he really doesn't like the phone, so if we do talk on the phone it is for two minutes max! Within the space of two months he has changed from being super-keen to quite distant.
I also have a mental health problem (bipolar) that he doesn't know about. He knows I have suffered from depression but I never went into the specifics. He says that mental illness freaks him out in general as he had a girlfriend who had big behavioural problems and a diagnosis. I may have a diagnosis but I have no behaviour issues. This makes me wonder about our long-term potential.
I am getting really frustrated as I don't know how to broach the issue of 'us' with him. Should I say 'I feel that you're not interested', 'where do you see us going?' or just let it peter out, which would be difficult? Or should I just leave him since this is making me more unhappy?
He is not bad to me, he is quite sweet. He just seems to always need things on his own terms.Any advice much appreciated!
poster:Basia
thread:700515
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