Posted by Jost on October 31, 2006, at 21:37:22
In reply to Can you be friends?, posted by phook2 on October 31, 2006, at 16:44:03
Phook2, you don't sound as though you're ready to be friends with your wife.
It sounds like you're hoping to rekindle the relationship (I also read your prior message).
While you have to make this decision based on your own feelings, ief she isn't interested in the marriage but only friendship, I think it could be an unstable arrangment-- that has a built-in onus to rearranging. ie you've moved into a house, you've given your son expectations that you could be a family again, among others.
what if you and your wife have disagreements-- how will that affect you and your son?
I think (but again-- this is just my opinion) --a temporary measure until you know exactly how things are going to resolve themselves-- ie will she have other relationships, can you be friends, etc-- is a sounder approach, if you're not sure what to do.
Jost
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