Posted by neilkramer on October 28, 2006, at 11:44:26
I'm in a relationship right now with a lovely girl who drinks too much and doesn't realize it. She's presently in the cutting down phase, but if this is cutting down, it's pretty depressing. She's really funny, cute, smart, and nice, but, before meeting me, she had been drinking like this for years, on top of mental health issues - OCD, social anxiety, depression, fatigue - and her life is a mess. Her car looks like a baglady's car, and her apartment seems uninhabitable. I haven't been in it for more than a year. She has traffic tickets that she hasnt dealt with. She can't really deal with anything, and claims things are hard for her because of her social anxiety, but she doesn't have any difficulty going to the bar. I've been with her for a year and a half, and I've let her become somewhat financially dependent on me, and she thinks I'm the one. She just dated a number of lousy guys before me, so anyone would look good in her eyes. I wish there was someway for her to fall in love with someone else, because she's so emotionally vulnerable, and sweet, that the idea of breaking her heart is intolerable. It's like I have a child that I can't abandon. We just aren't a good match. I don't like to drink. Is there some easy way to get of a relationship like this?
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