Posted by Squiggles on September 25, 2006, at 14:14:27
In reply to Re: dx » Squiggles, posted by Jost on September 25, 2006, at 14:05:48
> Hi, Squiggles.
Thank you for picking this up Jost.
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> Have you and she had a clear discussion about how helpful you find the care you've received?Not really.
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> There are two ways to go that I can think of:
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> you could try to have a very clear, firm discussion in which you tell her that you have confidence in your dx and treatment, and need her to respect that;Yeah, i am afraid that might lead to
conflict.
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> or you could decide (privately) that you don't care what she thinks your dx is, and simply tell her that in times of stress and/or depression, you need her support and kindness. You could say, gently, that sometimes you feel she isn't supportive, and maybe she could do certain things (which you could name) that would feel very good to you at those times.That could lead to conflict too, lol :-)
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> If she's really persistent about the dx, you could also say, that the dx isn't important, what's important is that you're getting help that you believe you need, and that you hope she can also be there for you.Yeah, i suppose that is non-commital enough.
I would hope for a deeper understanding, but
it's not Wonderland.
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> At least I think that's where I would start. If the relationship is a life-long and close relationship, I wouldn't want to lose it. Yet I also wouldn't want it to undermine something so significant to my well-being as my trust in my treatment.
>That's reasonable.
Thank you Jost. Diplomacy - net must
be full of those sites - i'm going there.
Thank you. Frankly, i'd just like to
tell her to **** off, but you know,
diplomacy.Squiggles
> Jost
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