Posted by Jost on September 25, 2006, at 14:05:48
In reply to dx, posted by Squiggles on September 25, 2006, at 13:40:27
Hi, Squiggles.
Have you and she had a clear discussion about how helpful you find the care you've received?
There are two ways to go that I can think of:
you could try to have a very clear, firm discussion in which you tell her that you have confidence in your dx and treatment, and need her to respect that;
or you could decide (privately) that you don't care what she thinks your dx is, and simply tell her that in times of stress and/or depression, you need her support and kindness. You could say, gently, that sometimes you feel she isn't supportive, and maybe she could do certain things (which you could name) that would feel very good to you at those times.
If she's really persistent about the dx, you could also say, that the dx isn't important, what's important is that you're getting help that you believe you need, and that you hope she can also be there for you.
At least I think that's where I would start. If the relationship is a life-long and close relationship, I wouldn't want to lose it. Yet I also wouldn't want it to undermine something so significant to my well-being as my trust in my treatment.
Jost
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