Posted by Tamar on May 30, 2006, at 10:48:18
In reply to Don't y'all think it's weird..., posted by Larry Hoover on May 29, 2006, at 8:45:39
> .....when you develop feelings for someone you've never met, except in an online context?
It doesn’t seem weird to me. It seems very easy for me to feel love for people I don’t know everything about. In fact, I reckon love stays alive most easily when people continue to get to know each other over many years. There’s always some of the excitement of discovery. Or maybe it’s just me…
> But, you have this internet reality, where you can be intimately involved with someone you haven't the slightest clue what they are really like. I mean, you have the intimacy, and assuming it's all quite truthful and accurate, but you still don't know their vibe. You still don't have any sense of body language, or style, or all of that. If there's that chemistry. Or do you?
I reckon you’re right about body language and style and so on. But I suppose you can get some of that with a web cam or photos. The thing that’s impossible to know without meeting is whether you’re going to be attracted to the way they smell. And I think that can be very important, though it’s usually not a conscious thing.
> It quite messes with me, really, because I am a passionate fellow. And it's out of sequence. It's out of context. Isn't it? I mean, to feel for someone you haven't met?
I think it makes sense to have those feelings. You have encountered her as a person, even if you haven’t been in the same room. She’s still real; she’s just distant.
I’m with Antigua: I think it’s romantic.
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