Posted by sibemom on March 11, 2006, at 19:41:31
I truely feel as if my marriage is falling apart. What started out to be or at least I thought a wonderful loving relationship has turned COLD I MEAN BURRRRRR cold. My husband has some health concerns and we went through a horriable time but seemed to get past it, but now it is my turn to be the patient so to speak since I was hit by a drunk driver, and I just do not think he feels any compasion for me what so ever. I know everyone expresses their concerns differently and I am not looking for any pity from him, but he seems like he blames ME for what happened. He will not sit and talk with me about it, he won't read any of the literature I brought home from the therapist, he REFUSES to assist me with things around the house and instead runs out to his friends and helps him all day. I have to call in family members to help with the care of our 5 year old and with household responsabilities. I feel as if I have no emotion towards him at all anymore because he just acts as if he is a border here and not a husband. He keeps asking me WHAT ARE WE GOING TO DO WITHOUT YOU WORKING, well I know that is a major problem but I would much rather hear support coming from him and not burdening me with the guilt of losing my job due to my accident. I just do not know what to do. My therapist says he should be coming in for family sessions and he refuses. I am trying so hard to keep it together because the drug therapy is tough on me, but still I try very hard because even if we loose us, which it sounds like we kind of are I STILL NEED TO HAVE ME. I wish he could just stand in my shoes for a second and see how hard it is to deal with the injuries I have been left with. I just don't know.
poster:sibemom
thread:619065
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