Posted by TexasChic on February 5, 2006, at 21:40:06
In reply to The year from hell? (Long - sorry), posted by freckafree on January 28, 2006, at 22:40:10
>I'm having a hard time making myself move the process along, not because I'm having second thoughts, but, in part, because I dread what's coming -- negotiating (I hope) the terms of the dissolution, telling our son, dealing with dividing things, etc.
I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. As a single, never been married, relationship defficient person (basically I'm saying I have no experience in this area whatsoever), it sounds to me like you need to treat it like a band-aid. Rip it off quick and deal with the pain, which you know will be there no matter how fast or slow you go, but at least you can get it over with.
>On top of all this is that fact that my wonderful, gifted son is having a terrible time in 5th grade. I think the way my husband and I are working together as parents is convincing him (my husband) that this whole divorce thing isn't going to happen. And I am beating myself up with thoughts that the divorce will only make my son's problems worse.
Personally, I would think your being so unhappy would be worse on him. Kids sense alot more than you think. If you want to be able to help him, maybe your first step should be to help yourself. That way you can show by example how you want him to treat himself.
>But right now, I just feel so sad and bereft and alone.
I don't know if that's necessarily a meds issue. It sounds like you have adequate reasons to have the feelings you do. Numbing yourself to your true feelings is no kind of life.
-T
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