Posted by sunny10 on November 29, 2005, at 8:04:20
In reply to bittersweet *trigger*, posted by ClearSkies on November 28, 2005, at 20:49:47
perhaps your mother is just setting boundaries of her own.
I, too, am accused of hiding from certain members of my family. And I do it because they break my spirit down every time I see them and I have decided that I do not need that kind of attitude in my life because it hurts too much coming from those that I love.
Maybe your mom isn't good at showing her love or being forthright because what others have shown her is that love and honesty are "tough love" and "brutal honesty" and she doesn't want you to have to put up with the hurt they cause. It may be the only "love" she knows how to show, but she refuses to hurt you, so what you feel is withheld love.
Is it at all possible? And if so, does knowing this help you hurt less?
Just thought I'd offer my .02 as an ogre myself...
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