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Re: Need advice on work situation

Posted by TexasChic on November 16, 2005, at 17:53:29

In reply to Need advice on work situation, posted by blondemomints on October 24, 2005, at 20:01:59

From what I see, you have two different issues here. Her and this guy, and her not doing her work.

As for her and the guy, there's really nothing you can do about it and it really isn't your place even if you could. Of course, that would be easier to accept if she wasn't slacking on the work.

I would try to think of the work thing as a separate issue and try to decide what you would do if her slacking was caused by something like staying out late, or hating her job or something. Can you do only your work, or will it make you look bad too if you don't take up the slack? I know it can be this way sometimes, even though its not fair. Can you talk to her about the work load without mentioning a word about the guy? Bringing up the guy will just cloud the issue (she's going to be defensive about it) and take the focus from where you really want it.

If this is something you think may end up getting you in trouble down the line, like if she said you were the one slacking, I would start documenting EVERYTHING. Every bit of work you do and the time it takes to do it. Keeping track of how you've spent every minute of your day increases your credibility and backs up your side of the story. It may seem dumb, but I've seen the impressed look in the boss's eyes as I hand him a record of how I've spent 'every minute' for the last several months. When he then looks at the other person expectingly, only to find they have no documentation, it scores major points.

These are just some things I've learned from working at difficult jobs. Take it for what its worth. Unfortunately I have alot of experience with it though.

Good luck and let us know how it goes!

-T

 

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