Posted by catmint on November 1, 2005, at 13:37:39
In reply to Im driving my boyfriend crazy, posted by heatherann on October 22, 2005, at 13:46:35
> Im in a rut where I don't have enough outside support. All of my 'problems' - depressive negativity, paranoid thoughts - all end up at the feet of my boyfriend - who I live with. I adore him and we are buying a home together - I am beating the hell out of myself for having 'nothing to offer' him.
> [give me a break though, right? i'm depressed so my head is just rearing to keep me down. none of this thinking is very 'real']
> anyway - i don't want to ruin this relationship just because i'm having a difficult time reaching out these days. Not fair to either of us. I need some perspective, so here i am.
> thanks for listening.
>Heather,
I read this and it reminds me so much of my relationship.
I'm so insecure and I need constant reassurance. He's not always there to give it. I don't know why I do this in relationships. I know I need therapy and ways to boost my self-esteem, but I can't right now.Hopefully, we can talk more about this. It would be great to try and help each other, so we can feel secure that our boyfriends won't leave us because we're worried all the time.
I also posted to you on Substance Use. Take care Heather.
Amy
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