Posted by alesta on October 28, 2005, at 11:31:06
In reply to Re: sick of sex..... » alesta, posted by Tamar on October 28, 2005, at 11:08:26
> If what you want is a relationship and all you’re getting is sex, then maybe it’s time to think about why you’re with him. I guess it’s a matter of preference. I personally prefer to have sex with people I can also be friends with…
OMG EXACTLY! the thing is..i used to feel he was my best friend..that's why i picked him!! the great rapport...we seemed compatible..it was great. maybe that was all just a game on his part to get me. what a f#$%$$#%ed up game. it's like he was a totally different person. the friendship is GONE. now he's all about sex. i used to love our talks...we'd talk for hours. i kind of feel like it was all a lie. he is not the same at all. i really think he is a narcissist. they are good at sucking you in. although he never really did convince me he ever *cared*. so that hasn't changed.
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> And I’m not sure I’d like to be *ordered* to have my clothes off the whole time.me either
<I prefer it if my partner suggests things… If my partner suggested an entire day naked in a hotel room I’d jump at the chance (but we have three kids and the opportunity to spend an entire day having sex is just a fantasy…). If it doesn’t appeal to you, then you don’t have to do it.
i know....still thinking about it...
> Is the sex actually good? I can imagine if it’s not very satisfying it could get tedious…
well, yeah, it's mostly good...he just somehow manages to turn me off to it cause i need to feel that connection with a person before i want to have sex w/ them. it's hard to get into it otherwise...
> Tamarthanks tamar.:_) some excellent for thought... i most appreciate your input...:)
amy:)
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