Posted by rainbowbrite on October 24, 2005, at 20:03:14
In reply to My friend is quiet but I wonder if she's pulling, posted by Angela2 on October 22, 2005, at 22:06:43
> away from me. She has social anxiety like I do, and she's really quiet. We used to talk about our depression and our emotions, becuse we are similar in that way. But now she comes over to my house or I come over to her house, and she barely says a thing. I was so mad at her once becuase we went out to a movie and on the way home I was trying to make conversation and she wasn't budging. Also, she doesn't talk about her life at school with me. It makes me wonder if she has a different life or something and she just doesn't want to share it with me. I am too scared to ask her about school. I don't want to sem like I'm prying. I can't help but feel jealous though. She has a whole web of online friends and she has this completely different personality online. It is much easier for her to talk to people on line than in real life. She told me she went to see this movie the other day and I was like, cool was it good? I wanted to see that too. And she was like yeah it was good. But the whole time I was wondering who she saw it with. She has a few friends at her college and she never talks about them to me. She never talks about any of her frineds with me. I wanted to ask her who she saw it with but again, I felt like I would be prying. Maybe I'm not prying though? I don't think I'm being possessive. Do you guys? I just wish she would open up more about her life. Talk more about what she's thinking about. It's just bothering me, ya know?
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> Dr. Bob, you can move this to relationships if you want.Do you knwo her online personality? just curious.
Thats frutrating. You know, I think someimes we out grow our firends. as we age (ugh) we change so much adn I wonder if the two of you are parting ways. BUT there is also the possibility she is just feeling quiet. Are you comfortable asking her if she feels like you two have been drifting? honestly I knwo its hard but being open with people is one of the greatest things. It helps you mend relationships and it helps you weed out the bad relationships. Just let her know she is important to you, maybe ask her if she is going through something...And definately ask her how school is and her life etc. Does she ask you stuff? Asking people things implies an interest in their life, you know. Not prying IMO. I dont think you are being possesive, I think you are feeling like most would. When people are really private that is also a way of making people want to know stuff. She is giving mixed messages by hanging out with you but not opening up IMO. I say ask her whats up...I know its hard but it might save a friendship.Will you update
and remember youve got us as your online community too! We are awsome ;-)
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