Posted by sleepygirl on October 4, 2005, at 22:54:57
In reply to social anxiety and significant others, posted by Angela2 on October 1, 2005, at 15:59:51
Hey! You're funny with the sorry for being so confrontational thing, just say RESPOND DAMN IT!
It's probably the specificity of the post that keeps too many from responding. Sounds like you might just like one or two people at a time and not a freakin' crowd. I just sort of daze out for a while when that happens and hear circus music in my head - people are talking at me, but I can't tell what the heck they are saying :-) (slight exaggeration here)
But seriously, I'm not real good with the casual, talking just for the heck of it sort of conversation that you always seem to have to keep up with people you don't no too well (ex. "Oh yes, the weather, oh yes quite warm for this time of year.. blabbity, blab, blab.." and "Yeah, not sure what I'm going to do with my life yet, ha, ha, ha...." and "Oh sure, I'd love some fruit salad..."
I'd like to think it's because I just don't care or that I'm too anxious to be spontaneous and engaged, but I think it is both.
In the future say "Listen buddy! I like you, but not your entourage! I don't want to meet your aunt Betty or your friend Pete!"I'm totally kidding, just relating to the whole uncomfortable, nod and smile sort of interactions I inevitably have in these situations. I guess it would be a real problem if the guy was really involved/hung out a lot with his friends. You might have to make a real effort then to interact/engage with them, maybe a little more of listening to them, asking them questions, finding similar interests, and letting the guy know you need some help feeling comfortable around his friends.
I think this was an issue for you not so long ago, no? How did it end up?
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