Posted by 10derHeart on September 24, 2005, at 22:36:48
In reply to ADHD and Personal Relationships, posted by Bowtie Bob on September 19, 2005, at 5:28:18
Hi BB,
Sorry it took me so long to respond. How 'bout if I just blame my ADD for my disorganization and failure to finish things...like posting to people? ;-)
Anyway....I was diagnosed about 4 years ago. (I'm 46, BTW) There are TONS of resources. If you Google 'adult ADD' or 'ADD and relationships' on the Web, you'll come up with a huge amount, no doubt.
Here are two links for starters:
http://www.add.org/articles/index.html
There should be articles and book recommendations and such for family members specifically at both sites. There's been lots written about ADD and romance, parenting, dating, marriage...in fact, on the About.com site, there's a list called something like, "The Top Ten Things I Want You [or My Spouse] to Know About ADD," or something like that. If I find the list (I thought I saved it on my PC somewhere a while back...) I'll post it here. I remember it being awesome at helping explain that you don't *want* to do these things, and what a struggle it is for you to overcome what ADD can do to our brains...etc.Books, too. There are more all the time. Just do a search on Amazon, or check your local bookstore under the Psychology section. Good authors are Sari Solden, Terri Matlen, John Ratey and Dr. Ned Hallowell, Thom Hartman, and Katherine Nadeau - and that's only a few. You'll find books specifically about dealing with how to navigate a relationship where one partner has ADD and the other feels like they're going crazy....
Best of luck to you. This does *not* have to be an insurmountable problem, IMO.
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