Posted by fairywings on September 5, 2005, at 21:49:20
In reply to Mommie dearest...., posted by crazy teresa on September 5, 2005, at 13:39:40
Hi CrazyT,
How much are you prepared to deal with? If you write the letter, who will she show it to, and what will their response be? How will it affect you? Will she "get it"?
My mom had this victim mentality too, and tended to throw fits for all to see, including the kids. My mom didn't "get it". I had it out with her in person, after she said things in front of my kids, unforgivable things. Then she wrote me a letter justifying herself, which was a bunch of BS. If I had it to do over again, I think I'd tell her what I'd tolerate, and the consequences of specific behavior, but that was my mom.
If you're done with your mother, and don't want to see her, I guess you could just tell her specific things she's done in detail, how it's affected you and your kids, and that you won't tolerate it any more, and you don't want to see her again.
I wish you luck with this, it's not easy, I feel for you, that's for sure.
fw
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