Posted by Susan47 on September 2, 2005, at 23:26:30
In reply to single life vs. relationship life, posted by Joslynn on September 1, 2005, at 16:27:10
Sounds like you need to talk about this with a therapist, though. If he hasn't given you reason to believe he would run from you, but you're afraid he might, then you can work to change that feeling and not have it anymore. But it'll be work and it's hard to be unafraid. With something this big, this important, this potentially fulfilling and wonderful.. it's really true that you don't know what you're losing until you've had it. "Ignorance is Bliss" isn't really true, I mean, ignorance is a flat state of being, really.. bliss is Being There. You know, like Peter Sellers.. bliss is the knowing that when you love someone with your whole heart, you love yourself as well and you accept their love for you and you recognize that here is a person who also loves himself, respects himself and now wants you to share his life. That's huge; it wonderful and exciting and complimentary .. I can only imagine it, I haven't had it but one-sided and fantasized it, as well. Now I know, though, what potential there is for Happiness, Contentment .. A Life Shared.
You actually have that, so your feeling must be stronger than the one I had .. knowing what it is to have it makes the thought of losing it really scary, I'll bet. You have great courage to love someone this much...
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