Posted by Tamar on August 11, 2005, at 12:34:58
In reply to Single and (maybe) desperate . . . straw poll, posted by quietheart on August 9, 2005, at 16:56:57
Here are my answers to your questions!
> 1) What would be your best advice about how to find that one person?
Don’t try too hard. Just be yourself, and show interest in others as people.
> 2) Do you believe being single is unnatural?
Not at all.
> 3) Do you believe one can make it work with a broad range of people if he/she tries?
Definitely. But it helps if you choose someone who has a similar background to yours.
> 4) At what age do you think a person should give up trying?
I don’t know anyone who is too old to need love. There’s no upper age limit.
> 5) If one hasn't met that certain someone, do you think moving to a metropolis where there would be a greater chance of meeting someone is a wise decision or desperate?
Wise. But also it’s necessary to do things that will increase your chances of meeting people (for friendship as well as for love, partly because having friends is nice and partly because you can meet partners through friends). For example, find a hobby you enjoy where you can meet new people.
> 6) Do you think some people are meant to be single?
A few. But not many. And the people who are meant to be single know that they want to be single and aren’t looking for a partner.
> 7) What do you recommend for someone who, in her late twenties, hasn't been in a serious relationship?
I’d recommend developing a knowledge of yourself. Are you shy? Do you find it hard to get to know people? Do you like yourself? How do you feel about your attractiveness, sexuality, personality, family life, and stuff like that?
Many people who are looking for a partner find it difficult to be confident. Confidence attracts people. If you feel you are lacking in confidence, it might be a good idea to find a way of increasing your confidence. I’m talking about confidence in all aspects of life; not just in meeting people for relationships.
> As you can see, I am feeling crazily insecure about my singleness right now. Please help by answering these questions. Also, this discussion might be interesting for others too.
It can be lonely being single, especially if you’re at an age where a lot of your friends and acquaintances are settling down with partners. But you still have plenty of time to find someone special.
Just my two cents!
Tamar
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