Posted by Tamar on July 8, 2005, at 19:56:42
In reply to Re: Is romantic love an illiusion or real?, posted by happyflower on July 7, 2005, at 19:16:17
> It just seems like romantic love is so conditional. But like the love you have for your child isn't that way, love doesn't normally go away. Most people don't divorce their kids but seems like marriages aren't valued as much as parenthood. I seems like romantic love fades as love for a child doesn't.
It's true: love for a child is different from any other love.
On the other hand, it seems that both parenting and partnering are learned, at least to some extent.
I know that romantic love can fade, and sometimes it can feel as if it will never come back. And that feels like harder work than parenting. It seems to me that the main difference is that we try to be a tower of strength to our kids, but with our partners we sometimes have to allow ourselves to be vulnerable. And learning to be vulnerable is much more difficult than being strong, at least in my experience.
Just my two cents.
Tamar
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