Posted by NeilKramer on June 28, 2005, at 1:16:31
I'm currently dating someone with OCD. She's great in many ways, but sometimes I feel she's basing her actions on what she thinks I'm thinking and not actually checking with me. For example, she is somewhat of a nocturnal person, so she'll usually call to hang out at around 10:00 or 10:30 and be really apologetic because she doesn't want to bother me/overstay her welcome, eventhough that's the way we usually hang out, and then usually say something like, "I'll let you go now, you need to get some sleep." Well, at this point I'm awake because I'm excited that she called, and I couldn't get sleep if I wanted. Sometimes we hang out until 7 or 8 in the morning and not just engaged in sinister enterprises but actually talking and getting to know each other. Like I said, she's nocturnal. She generally works from about is 3:00 to 11:00 at a restaurant. When she has a day off, it's a different story, but I'm never sure when her days off are going to be. She generally works the weekends until 11:30 and 12:00 and wants to hang out at 12:30 but feels really guilty and I have to reassure her that I want to hang out with her. I don't want her to feel guilty and I want to hang out with her and I think she has a very simplistic view of my attitude towards my sleeping patterns, which we need to overcome. Any advice would be helpful.
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