Posted by Damos on June 1, 2005, at 17:40:16
In reply to Re: Sitting Here, Unable to Move » Susan47, posted by AdaGrace on May 31, 2005, at 23:43:11
Hey Gracie,
Sorry for being so silent on these threads, just honestly haven't known what to say or do. But something occurred to me this morning and I've been trying to pull it together in my head.
Somewhere you said you were looking for something you didn't have in your life and you found it in him. Gracie believing what you wanted/needed to believe to meet a need and fill a hole doesn't make you stupid in any way shape or form. It makes you incredibly, wondrously human. I wonder if it hurts so much becuase it brings back the harsh reality of those needs and longings still being there, and still being unmet, and made all the worse by your husbands increasing worrying behaviour. I wonder. I also wonder if it hurts even more because this event has made you see how you may have distorted the actual reality of your relationship with this person because of how you needed it to be. I hate that you're hurting Grace I really do and would do anything I could to take some of that pain away.
(((((AdaGrace)))))
poster:Damos
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