Posted by AdaGrace on May 27, 2005, at 13:31:44
In reply to Re: If a Man, posted by sunny10 on May 27, 2005, at 11:07:40
Well that probably wouldn't work because anytime I try to tell him what is wrong, he wants to talk about it over and over and over and he gets angryer and angryer if I don't appoligize and admit it was all my fault. See, he wears me down. My approach is to just ignore, until things smooth over. Because to talk simply wears me out. I can't take it.
Of course now, he knows he has upset me and that he was in the wrong, even though he never admitted it. And now we are back to the thing where he calls me at work all the time. "just to talk" even though he knows I am busy and can't take personal calls. If I don't take his calls or tell him I can't talk, or heaven forbid, get angry after the umpteenth unnecessary call, then it starts all over again. He also follows me around the house. Tells me he loves me constantly. If I don't say it back, he says it again. or says "didn't you hear me?". He will tell me goodbye before I leave in the morning, and still follow me out to the car and expect me to roll down the window so he can tell me goodbye again and have one more goodbye kiss. All of this is just making me sick to my stomach. This sickening act towards me that is supposed to let me know how much he loves me. Yet, I better not misbehave or talk back, because then after all, I will deserve to be punished. Actually, this behavior is much much scaryer than the threatening to hit me. Because this behavior could escalate into a psychotic/stalker/possessive spouse killer you hear about on TV. Unless I just simply snap and do him in first.
AdaGrace
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