Posted by JenStar on May 14, 2005, at 20:07:05
In reply to Re: hubby upset about work - how to be supportive? » JenStar, posted by Tamar on May 13, 2005, at 14:21:51
thanks, it does help! Many of you mentioned physical comfort, and it seems that it DOES help him a bit. If I just hug him, or we just sit cuddling on the couch, or if we have sex (even if I'm not in "the mood") it seems to calm him a bit. I guess babying him helps, although it's not really BABY-ing him, just comforting him. I do let him talk too, as much as he wants, and don't necessarily try to rationalize or analyze or organize it all - just let him get it all out. I just wish I had the power to take all the pain away and make him happy again. I feel so helpless, like I'm trying to soak up a tidal wave with a dish towel. Maybe that's how HE feels dealing with me and my "issues" from time to time?
Role reversal is right!
Thanks to all of you for the thoughts & advice. It means a lot to me that you all took the time to respond. :)
JenStar
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