Posted by Tamar on May 13, 2005, at 14:21:51
In reply to hubby upset about work - how to be supportive?, posted by JenStar on May 13, 2005, at 1:09:27
> And I feel that my mental outlook is rather lame and weak right now. I'm being supportive, telling him it will get better, we'll get thru it, everything eventually improves. I tell him I'll support him. But I feel like it does little to help him out.
It can feel like a role reversal, can't it?
At the end of the day, only he can do the work. But perhaps you can help by trying to make things at home as smooth as possible.
> what do you do to support your spouse when he/she is going thru a rough time? any suggestions?
I would give him as much space as he needs, if that's what he wants. I've found that men often prefer space at times like this, whereas I don't.
Also, offering physical comfort of any kind can be good. But if you get a knock back, don't take it personally; sometimes it can feel like too much pressure.
Hope that helps some!
Tamar
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