Posted by annierose on May 8, 2005, at 11:03:26
In reply to Jealousy, loneliness, posted by QuietHeart on May 8, 2005, at 9:14:05
I wish I knew how to respond to your post. I'm not very good at this, but I'll try. I don't think getting married is ever the answer to lonliness. If you are not content and happy already, a man will not "fix" the problem. It will only make for a sad and unhappy marriage.
I am so surprised your T lead you to believe that. Maybe you projected those feelings onto your T.
Are you willing to seek out another therapist that you feel more connected to? The more comfortable you are within yourself, the more other people will see that within you. And respond accordingly.
When I was trying to meet men, I did that by expanding my friendship base. Putting myself out there a little bit more than I was comfortable with. And when I'd least expect it, when I was just being myself, not trying to get anyone's attention, that is when I would get asked out. Some dates were horrible, and some were okay. But I learned something from each experience.
Good Luck. It's hard, I know.
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