Posted by partlycloudy on April 20, 2005, at 14:22:50
In reply to accelerated relationships and mental illness, posted by octopusprime on April 10, 2005, at 23:55:10
Hello, octopusprime!!! I missed you from this place.
I don't know that there is a connection between what some might consider an accelerated relationship, and mental illness. Some people are more cautious than others - and I'm a quick study, like you.I don't if it will reassure you at all, but when I first met my husband of 3 years this month (!) it was when I ran to a bar from an AA meeting, was already being treated for anxiety and depression, and he still loved me for all my problems and issues.
Now we are deep into a year and a half of therapy and loads of med changes as I'm still coming to terms with being bipolar2 and still anxious. There have been many times that I've fretted over what I'm dragging my husband through with me - how on earth can this be a fair thing to do to your partner?
He insists, and it is starting to sink in, that he loves me depressed or manic, anxious or calm, panicked or serene. And being married to someone with mental illness is, I guess, like being married to someone with any chronic illness. Sometimes it interferes with the things we want to do - but our mates understand this.
I have fond hopes of being "better" - yeah, right. I might get better at walking the tightrope of medications, or better at understanding what underlying issues I have that contribute to my problems; but I think I know that I will always be trying to find and maintain my balance, if you know what I mean.So nice to see you here. Sorry I took so long in responding to your post.
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