Posted by Susan47 on April 4, 2005, at 9:39:23
In reply to obsessive attatchment disorder--help!, posted by inthegloaming on April 3, 2005, at 23:29:25
Are you in therapy? THe right therapist, the RIGHT therapist, someone you frankly tell all this to right off the bat in my opinion, will help .. and also, if you haven't tried EMDR I suspect it's well worth trying. IT helps with resolving trauma; you had a terrible trauma when you were little. You're still struggling with it but you can change things. You can, definitely, this doesn't have to go on forever.
I felt great attachment to my last therapist ... if the weekend was coming I felt like I would die, because I didn't have any handle at all on where he existed in this world, you know? It felt like a spiritual abandonment. Of course, I knew it was all about me, but impossible to control. Luckily I knew the dangers of obsessing though, so I avoided stalking-type behaviours .. plus I really don't have time for that sort of thing, and it's crazy-making, why make myself any crazier than I already feel in my emotional need?
It was bad enough, I would show up in his outer office once in awhile just to reassure myself he really did still exist.. because he showed me for awhile, that he did care.
Do you do this with women you actually know? You mentioned celebrities, but I'm thinking you wouldn't necessarily know them personally. The power thing is really big in this for you. Is it bigger than the actual knowing of the person?
Have you ever been in therapy for this, because if you haven't, maybe you should be.
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