Posted by mair on March 29, 2005, at 21:12:11
In reply to Re: Thanks; you all said what I wanted... » Dinah, posted by Colleen D. on March 24, 2005, at 6:28:48
Colleen - a few years ago one of the secretarys in my office had a fiance who drank too much and wasn't always good about not driving. This woman also had a 10 year old child living with them and she told her daughter to never get in the car with this guy if he had been drinking. He left one day to drive over to pick up our secretary and tried to get the kid to come with him. She refused and was able to stand her ground. He was in an accident on his way over and was killed.
When I told my kids this story, they were so impressed that this young girl had been able to say no to an adult. The woman I know felt guilty because she felt that maybe if she hadn't put so much pressure on him, he might not have been as much of a drinker (she booted him out for awhile). I thought she should feel damn fortunate that she still had a healthy child and should consider the guilt she'd feel if her kid had been in the car.
Taking a more affirmative step will definitely keep your kids safer particularly since they aren't old enough to choose not to be with him. And who knows, maybe it will help him see that he needs to sober up.
Good luck
Mair
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