Posted by sunny10 on February 23, 2005, at 10:22:29
In reply to Re: ok, Toph and Susan47- the story is written, posted by Susan47 on February 22, 2005, at 19:56:57
Obviously, I couldn't include everything!!!
The married man thing culminated as it did in my post to AdaGrace in November of the year BEFORE the horrible Holiday Fiascos...
I had already spent 12 months mired in depression when my family did what they did. It was extremely difficult for me to handle the fact that they would choose a woman who emotionally abused her children over me. The whole family. (Okay, except for my dad- they are divorced, of course! But he didn't stick up for me and point out to my brother how callously bro was treating me, either)
The main point of the story, though, is that had my SO and I met each other earlier, we would have hated each other. He was the long-haired hippie druggie, I was the goody-two-shoes with my head up my butt!
It was fate that we had never met before then. It was fate that I had given up all hope in ever finding a man to love. I had given up all hope of compromise; which I know is the cornerstone to any good relationship.
I think, most of all, that I have learned that holding on too tightly merely squishes everything (and, everyone that I was so afraid of losing), and that letting go of trying to control my destiny actually brought it to me.
poster:sunny10
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