Posted by TamaraJ on February 20, 2005, at 16:26:30
In reply to The Line Between Love and Hate, posted by AdaGrace on February 20, 2005, at 15:56:19
I don't know, maybe the Love turning to Hate is more about our own anger (how could you not love me - look at what you are missing out on!), recriminations, sometimes bitter, (in ourselves -what could we have done better and what did WE do that made the relationship not work); regret (I should have done this or that or the other thing) and ego (our pride has taken a blow and our self-esteem is hurting). We don't really hate the other person, nor do we hate ourselves, we hate what we are letting a failed relationship do to us (consume us and cause us to act out). Who knows. I am so relationship challenged, that I would be deluding myself to say that I have not myself experienced the same feelings you have a time or two.
I am sorry you are hurting AdaGrace.
Tamara
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