Posted by Toph on February 14, 2005, at 10:20:01
In reply to Re: Major Trigger for me today, Toph, posted by sunny10 on February 14, 2005, at 8:47:00
Hi sunny,
You seem to have come to peace with your past, especially since roles have reversed and he is the helpless "child" now. I live these dramas at work every day. Does commited mean a mental health commitment? The laws in your state may allow an individual to execute a Power of Attorney for Health Care, but probably not since one must be "of sound mind." If you wanted to go to war with your relatives you could petition through a private attorney for temporary guardianship to wrestle control of your father away from them and then consent to whatever you deemed to be in his best interests, including the principle of substitute judgement or essentially his desires. Anyway, what this should be about is what is best for your Dad. Maybe all you will be allowed to do in this circumstance is stand by his side, understand his Hemingwayesque desire to snuff out a spent candle with hardly any wick remaining, and, if you have it in you, to forgive him for harming you as you forgive youself for being so harmed.Afterall,he must have done something right as a father if he had anything to do with how his lovely daughter turned out.
Toph
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