Posted by Uncle lou on February 13, 2005, at 22:17:21
I'm a recovering alcoholic 1 1/2 years sober following in-patient rehab. Married 15 years, two kids 13 & 10. No history of violence, infidelity, legal or financial problems. My wife has been very angry and distant since I lost (resigned)my job and willingly entered the rehab. Things were not great before, but I was hoping things would improve between us now that I'm sober. It seems that the more I'm improving the more fault she's finding with me. She's been asking for 'space' and I agreed to move out of the house because she said we would go back to counceling if I did. Now she says its over, she has nothing left to give. She has not gone back to the councling with me since I moved out. She says she loves me but 'not the right way' to want to be with me (WTF?) I'm very upset that she doesn't want to at least attempt to repair the marriage, we have the kids to consider. I don't want to stay married if we are miserable either but I can't understand why she won't try for the kids. I love my wife and kids and it breaks my heart to see the kids go through this and being powerless to try to stop it. I know she has her own issues from her dysfunctional family, and I would really like the cycle of dysfunction to end with our us and our children. Any suggestions on how to get her to at least try?
poster:Uncle lou
thread:457367
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