Posted by alexandra_k on December 12, 2004, at 22:23:43
In reply to Re: Playing with fire suzy-q, posted by Susan47 on December 12, 2004, at 21:36:00
> IMO if a guy left his family for another woman he's a kind of a boor, isn't he? I mean, the chances are that relationship won't work out any better than the marriage he left.
Well, I figure it is starting a new relationship without your other partner knowing about it that is pretty horrid and unfair. But yes, if you start a habit of running when the going gets tough then I suppose you never learn to stick it out.
>IMO men and women are both meant to have lovers. It's human nature, but then, as Katharine Hepburn said to Humphrey Bogart in African Queen, "Human nature, Mr. (can't remember his name) is what we are here to OVERCOME" with a great sneer and fierce look down her long countenance, to the bewildered, sweaty mate (to-be, omigod that's too too funny).
If you both agree then I guess that'd be ok. One guy (married) who I had a relationship with had an open relationship with his wife and so she didn't mind a d*mn that we were sleeping together. But most people find that strange... They have since split up (she told him to go - nothing to do with me I promise) and so we have had an arrangement ever since which suits us both (mostly). In fact he goes and stays with her and her son (who her 'arrangement' agreed to help her out with producing) and he is kind of like a father to him.
But then they are a bunch of hippies (used to go round with the gypsy fair n' all).
I figure that most people wouldn't want that sort of relationship though. But I don't think it would worry me. But then I haven't really fallen in love properly yet. If I did I might just turn out to be the jealous and possessive type...
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