Posted by alexandra_k on December 12, 2004, at 14:48:05
In reply to Re: how do you mean???, posted by alexandra_k on December 12, 2004, at 13:47:46
Ok. I have thought about this some more...
It is likely that one of you will get more attached than the other. Ever seen "Fatal attraction"??? Or if he gets more attached to you then you have to live with being a homewrecker. If he does leave his wife / family for you then it is fairly likely that he will cheat on you.
I have done it because there is no danger that I will get more attached. (I say that in an optimistic spirit but I guess that one can never be sure really and so it is playing with fire). And the thing that gets me the most is the disrespect that is being shown to their wife / family. That really sux.
Maybe I do it because then I don't have to feel bad about stomping on their emotions. I can feel free to hate them as the mood takes me.
I guess that I do it because my abusers waited until I was 14. Then they made out like they really cared about me, and it wasn't 'abuse' it was an 'affair'. I have been having those kinds of relationships ever since.
One person left their other for me. I thought I was in love. But it didn't take me all that long of living with them to realise that - no. Oh no indeed I did not love them. But I recked their perfectly good marriage. I received death threats from the x. I feel sick when I think about it still.
It is playing with fire and someone will get burned.
Don't go there.
Sorry for my raving. I should take it to therapy, I know :-)
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