Posted by AuntieMel on December 9, 2004, at 8:24:55
In reply to Recreating history - for Dinah (and everyone), posted by All Done on December 9, 2004, at 1:10:34
I don't know the extent of it, or how far off truth she is, but:
Sometimes people embelish things (a little or a lot) because they think the true story would be too boring. So interesting 'details' get added, and added until the story only barely resembles the truth.
Sometimes people feel guilt about things were to the degree that they refactor it in their own brains - either by adding ways that point the guilt elsewhere or by 'remembering' it how they feel it should have been.
Either one is a result of their own insecurity. If this is what your mom is doing, then how to handle it is dependent on you. How much - in the greater scheme of things - does it bother you? Can you put it in perspective and feel sorry for her? Instead of arguing can you roll your eyes and give a knowing smile?
The important thing here is that *you* come up with some way to deal with it that allows *you* to feel less stress. You can't control your mom, but with work you *can* control how you react to her.
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