Posted by Toph on November 26, 2004, at 1:22:27
In reply to Re: Is it true? » Toph, posted by sunny10 on November 17, 2004, at 8:17:02
I got blocked so I never got around to responding to you Sunny. It's nice what you said, I can't tell you how fortunate I am to hve a wonderful partner. My first wife fell out of love with me after she went through a third hospitalization of mine. We had 2 kids together and I discovered that she was sleeping with a guy from work. I was crushed. My daughter was only a year old and I thought we wanted that baby. To this day I cannot forgive myself for failing to spare my kids the anguish of having their father move out. My wife, whose first husband abandoned his daughter, my step-daughter, reassures me that I was as good a father to my children as if I had never left. I saw them every Wednesday for dinner and every weekend from Friday through Sunday night. But still, even though they both eventually chose to live with me when they turned 12, I can not get out of my mind that face of my son when I moved out when he was 5. That perfectly happy little boy has a scar that affects him today.
How'd I get off on this. I want to say that after such pain, you think that your one shot at a healthy marriage is ruined. But miracles can happen. And I met this cute, capable social worker with curly hair. She is the most honest person I know and the most trustworthy. I wish I didn't disappoint her so much, she deserves better. Marriage is a lot of work. Intimacy, in all its forms, is hard to maintain with all the pressures of work and having mood swings and everything. Sorry to ramble so.
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