Posted by 10derheart on November 25, 2004, at 23:18:10
In reply to Re: Stages of Grief, posted by sunny10 on November 25, 2004, at 11:07:06
If I may jump in, I think I can help. This is a special interest of mine, from time to time, and I was reading about it just earlier today. I am working through termination with my former T., so am going through another kind of painful grieving. I also have some really old grief issues we discovered together. Maybe it would be helpful to read these; it is for me. It reassures me these powerful emotions that pop up are very, very normal and healthy.
The originator, I believe, is Dr. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross in her book "On Death and Dying", I think from the late 60's or very early 70's. It's a great book. The stages are: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. And yes, you definitely can and do, jump back and forth between them. A straight line right through all 5 just isn't the way our ever-so-complex minds/hearts/souls are made up, IMHO. And you can get stuck in one for long periods. And you can experience more than one simultaneously.
Hang in there, AdaGrace. I lurk here a lot and I so feel for the hurt, anger and depression of what's happened to you. My experience was long ago (15+ years), but when I read your words, I do remember thinking almost identical thoughts about the man who treated me that way. I absolutely promise you - it WILL get better. You WILL get to a peaceful place, eventually. Take care. - ((AdaGrace)) -- 10derHeart
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