Posted by asya on November 22, 2004, at 10:20:27
Hi all,
I am so confused and scared and desperately hope you can help me. I am 27 but feel like a fifteen-year old when it comes to relationships. Can someone explain what it means to BE in love with someone, feel chemistry, and how long it takes to cultivate that? I know those are loaded questions but I just want to get others' takes on it. I met a guy this two weeks ago who is amazing best-friend/husband material. Well-educated, kind, decent looking -- I have so many questions though, because I have never really been in a relationship. How do I know how to proceed? He put his arm around me and it felt awkward. Will this change with time? I don't get butterflies. I don't feel like kissing him, though am not repulsed by him. He's such a kind person, and really cares about my life. I don't have an urge to snuggle with him right now. I don't long for him. Does that come later? How long should I wait before thinking it will never come? Is it ok for me to at least MEET other men in the meantime? Is it possible for one person to feel chemistry and the other not to? I don't know what to do. I know this seems silly and strange, but I have a REAL PHOBIA with relationships. I am so emotional over this and have no other support. Please help
poster:asya
thread:418928
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/relate/20041118/msgs/418928.html