Posted by AdaGrace on November 21, 2004, at 7:39:09
In reply to long, but eventually makes my point(s), posted by just plain jane on November 20, 2004, at 13:35:27
You remind me so much of my sister......and someday I'm gonna write it all down for you in an e-mail.
You have such self confidence and self assurance that it amazes me you are even on this web site....Sometimes I wonder if you are the Therapist I have been looking for and somehow my subconscious dreamed you here......
I like you Janie.....and I see your point.....
We are sometimes brought up to feel and think that we are not complete without a man.....yet, men do not always attempt to build on that idea, and instead see it as something of a challenge.....to mold us into what they want us to become....
I often feel as if I would have been better off being born a man, because that way, my ideas, my talents in the world would be more accepted and more valued.
We are not living in the 50's anymore and the men don't always bring home all the bacon it takes to make it.
But sometimes "I" feel as if women are expected to be a 50's housewife, but do it on her own time because baby, she's got to bring home the bacon too.It amazes me the idea that my husband has that if he happens to do the dishes and happens to mop the floor, then I am somehow supposed to acknowledge that with praise and a thank you, whereas, when I do it, I get no response. He then turns around and brags to all his friends and aquaintaces that he "does it all" around the house. I just wish once one of those friends or aquaintances would say...."Well Buddy, you ought to, your wife makes more money than you do and works longer hours and is paying for a roof over your head and vehicle under your arse...."
But alas, they do not, because it seems to me that they are jealous of my financial contribution and wish they too could have a "Rosey the Riveter" in their household.
But I digress, more about you Janey
Your love for those animals is so apparent and admirable.
I just finally got a pet I could call my own and love that dog to pieces. There is nothing like the unconditional love of a pet. Treated well they can be a companion way better than a human. Treat them right and they will defend your life EVERY time. Take care of them and they will show you all the love in the world and you will never have to question their motives. They will never go looking for another master, and if you do happen to lose them or they get lost, they will die trying to get back to you.
When I look back on my life in some of those self loathing moments I tend to have lately and I wish and I moan about the "what if's" the one more prevalent is the "what if I never got married, and what if I didn't want to ever, and what would my life be like if I was living it alone"
You know I was told once that I was so mean to my kids that they would never come see me after they were grown and out of the house, I believed that for so long. I have this image in my head about me being a 90 year old woman, living in an appartment above my antique shop (I don't have one, this is the fantasy part, but I'm thinking an antique would know lots about selling antiques) anyway I am this 90 year old woman, living above my own antique shop in this little appartment with 15 cats and 5 dogs and I never go anywhere because I can't drive and noone comes to see me, and I have my cat food delivered, and I eat the cat food and I have stacks of newspapers all around the appartment and there is a tv set there, but there is a hole in it because 30 years ago I rammed my foot in it about all the world violence, and so I never replaced it........and then of course I talk to people in my antique shop, but never really have friends, but ohhhhh those cats and dogs......and then one day they will find me....probably months after I die because the neighbors smell the stench and those lovely cats and dogs have begun to eat my flesh because the food ran out........Holy Mary Mother of God.......(I'm Catholic, bear with me)
Holy Mary Mother of God.........I am one sick puppy and always will be....
Janey, what was your point again, and what was mine?
Ada, insane, Grace
She's mad as a hatter and that's never going to change......
You ain't goin crazy, it's all in your head.....
poster:AdaGrace
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