Posted by jlynne on November 5, 2004, at 12:13:25 [reposted on November 5, 2004, at 14:03:53 | original URL]
In reply to Re: First date tomorow, but BIG problem, plz HELP!, posted by becksA on November 5, 2004, at 11:42:41
I understand your fears, I really do. But I personally would like the other person to offer honesty from the very beginning . . . it opens the door to a healthy relationship and will allow her to be honest with you, also.
Getting three speeding tickets is not such a big deal; so you made some unfortunate choices . . . have you learned from them? If you want this person to like you, then I would suggest that you be who you are, not someone you think you "should" be. If she is worth pursuing, she will understand and appreciate your honesty, which in my opinion is a whole lot more important than whether or not you can drive to meet her tomorrow. I, personally, find honesty a very attractive quality in a person, especially when there is a risk involved and the person chooses honesty anyway.
How about something like "I need to tell you something, and it is not easy for me to say, but I think you are worth being honest with, and I hope you won't hold it against me . . ."
Again, good luck, dear. I hope you find a really fantastic friend in her.
. . . jlynne
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