Posted by JenStar on October 30, 2004, at 23:21:52
In reply to PLEASE HELP - my boyfriend found my Xanax, posted by Violet4EVR on October 30, 2004, at 1:58:48
hi Violet,
I can understand completely about people not needing to know certain stuff. I feel the same way - meds are private, and there is no need for the community at large to know what I do and don't take! :)About your BF -- it's unfortunate that he didn't respond with the more desired "Whatever you need to take, I still love you and want to be with you, regardless of what kind of med it is."
But maybe he really WOULD think that once he reflects on it more.
Most people don't really understand Xanax or the need for meds until they get to know someone who needs it, and realize that the taker is normal, happy, cool, intelligent, put-together, and absolutely capable of grandeur (and just needs a bit of assistance from time to time!) There IS a big stigma about mental health, and often people joke when they're uncomfortable and don't know what else to say. Maybe he is not very self-secure and doesn't think he has enough depth and insight to help someone who might need it...(but might have it after all once he thinks it over!)
I'd recommend talking to him honestly, unless you want to break it off right now b/c he's not worth the truth or can't be trusted with it. But if you do think he's trusthworthy and has integrity, then you'll need to open up and tell him...and hopefully he'll see that it's not realy a big deal. (I mean, it IS, but it also isn't, in the sense that it's not a "dealbreaker", right?)
Anyway, if he DOESN'T respond with compassion once he knows all, then he's not worth it. But hopefully he will turn out to be very supportive.
Good luck. Keep us updated!
JenStar
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